A few years ago I created my own version of Christmas - a relaxed get-together with friends and family, maybe on December 25th but not neccessarily; what's wrong with December 24th or 26th? It certainly takes the pressure off that "big day". I stopped sending cards and replaced them with phone calls and merged my decorations with the candlelight festival of Diwali, plus lots of fresh flowers. We exchange gifts to express our appreciation of each other. The wreath on my front door is entwined with wattle one day, grevillea the next, gardenias as well. My kids happily accept Mum's crazy notions; they certainly appreciate the freedom to be elsewhere on Dec 25th if it suits them, as we will have a special meal at a time that suits us all. This year - Paull has his first New York City Xmas and tomorrow Eliza flies over to join him for three weeks. I'm honoured to be invited to join my brother's family for lunch on the 25th - after a webcam call from New York, of course!